When I hear these words I think the person using them
lacks confidence to stand behind what they are stating. These words:
- are trite.
- soften and weaken the message when there is no reason to do so.
- are used as filler due to the speaker's lack of properly descriptive words.
So, please, take note of when you use these and ask yourself why you do so. Example: "Actually, I kinda feel sad, you know, because you sorta yelled at me." The use of "actually" may imply you lie otherwise. Do you feel sad or don't you? "You know", well, why should I know what you are talking about when you haven't completed the sentence? Did you yell at me or not, there is no need for the descriptor "sorta."
Fully commit to the message you are communicating. Don't hedge and instead have the conviction to declare your idea.
And lastly, using these words as qualifiers or modifiers of adjectives and adverbs is simply incorrect English usage and projects incompetence.
